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Super Woman or Wife?
“Early in the morning I put breakfast at your table
And make sure that your coffee has it's sugar and cream
Your eggs are overeasy
Your toast done lightly
All that's missing is your morning kiss that used to greet me
Now you say the juice is sour
It used to be so sweet
And I can't help but to wonder if you're talking about me
We don't talk the way we used to talk
It's hurting so deep
I've got my pride
I will not cry
But it's making me weak”
These are the lyrics to the first verse of the song, “Superwoman” by Karyn White. How many remember this song in the late eighties? How many can can relate to this song, especially the second verse?
I have read about someone actually complaining that she has a nine to five job and is expected to take of the house and their young child. Her husband just waves to the child and that’s it! Whenever she complains about it, he chides her about it and informs her that women are doing all that with even more children!
Seriously?!! What does he thinks his role is in the house? Or better yet the role of a woman.
It is sad if in this day and age there are men who think that the woman’s place is in the house even with a nine to five job. I think that this is just selfish and inconsiderate and frankly, he has no love for his wife. No one would treat the one they love this way.
Secondly, he has no consideration for his child either. He is not by his actions even developing a relationship with his child!
Unfortunately, he may not even know how to give love so what seems like being selfish is more like someone who needs to be taught how to love. These are persons who end up being takers and not givers. Sadly, not all see that there is a problem and are willing to change.
Again, I will always say, during courtship, take note of how you are treated by your spouse. Do not take certain things for granted. You might not have been living together but I’m certain there were aspects of his selfishness that were shown during courtship which might have just been overlooked.
Ladies, define yourselves and your expectations. Know what your deal breaker is. I have always heard, “I love my man but...” Decide whether or not you can live with that but. Have the discussion when you notice some unacceptable behaviours then see how it is handled thereafter.
Remember, marriage does not change anyone, it’s the same person. The only thing that changes is the status of the relationship so be wise and choose wisely.
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